Show Up and Overcome a Scarcity Mindset

Show Up to Go Up

Ep 15 Show Up and Overcome and Scarcity Mindset

 

Have you ever been so jealous of a friend or co worker for receiving a job or accolade you wanted? Yeah, me either. Not. at. All. Just kidding. I have. Time and time again. Great things would happen to my friends but they were great things that I wanted and while I was outwardly so excited for my friends, on the inside I was so bummed. I wanted those things for me and I wanted them for me first. I hate saying any of this because it’s not being a very good friend but it was my truth. I used to struggle with a scarcity mindset.

 

Somewhere along the way I developed the mindset that there are only an infinite amount of success and opportunities out there and so that meant if someone else got a win there were less wins for me. But that’s not true! It not only keeps you in a negative headspace but it doesn’t encourage you to reach and stretch for your goals. I have seen so many people create a position at their company that never existed before because they were so clear on what they wanted. We can create anything! But it wont happen if you believe there is only so much to go around. There is enough for everyone.

 

I know it can be easy to be jealous of others but their journey is not yours. Everything is working out for you the way it’s supposed to. I know you’ve gone through hard things and maybe you’re currently going through hard things but you are going to be stronger for overcoming that pain. You have to go through the fire to be molded into something new. If you are currently going through something hard check out this song. It’s so, so good. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUPgzd3nwMo You have to deal with whatever you’re going through. It’s okay to fall apart. God has a better journey for you than you know!

 

Having a scarcity mindset ultimately comes down to a lack of faith. And when there’s a lack of faith, fear is always present. On the other hand, having an abundance mindset means that you believe there is enough to go around for everyone. A person with an abundance mindset focuses on the belief that there are endless possibilities in life. They look for the positive or at least the lesson or meaning behind any setback or negative experience. They are optimistic and focus on the future therefore creating and attracting positive experiences and opportunities.

 

If you can relate to any of what I’m saying I want to give you some tools that have helped me make the shift from a living with a fearful or scarcity mindset to a mindset of abundance. 

 

1. First things first - admitting this is something you struggle with and your desire to change - You have to go inward. It can be hard to admit some of our shortcomings or dirty secrets but it’s the only real way to change. Let go of your ego and understand you’re not alone in this. Let go of any of the guilt or shame you’ve been holding onto for not being a supportive friend or partner.
2. You’re not a victim. Look for at least one positive thing that came out of whatever negative thing you experienced. Focus on what you have and what you can do rather than what you can’t. “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t either way you’re right.”  -Henry Ford
3. Start a practice of gratitude and/or meditation. Every morning I wake up and write 5 specific things I’m grateful for and I meditate. It’s important to start your day off right and in a positive way. From doing this practice I’ve noticed myself being overall much happier. 
4. If you are feeling jealousy toward a friend or coworker, don’t only admit it yourself, admit it to them. Have the courage to open a dialogue about it. Speaking your truth will always set you free from negativity and anxiety. By communicating how you feel you may be able to learn from that person - ask them how they got to where they are. you may learn that there are things that person envies about you. But most importantly you will be able to go deeper in your relationship with that person and that’s what life is all about.
5. Who are you spending your time with? You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. Choose them wisely. Choose to associate yourself and be friends with people that have an abundance mindset. People who are supportive and want wins for you. People who don’t complain or want bad things to happen to others. And not only that, what kind of information are you putting into your body? Are you reading and listening to negative things? Start making a conscious effort to read more inspiring content. 
6. Be generous. You get what you give so give to others. Pour into and help others as much as you can. This is especially important if you’re not naturally a generous person. “You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” - zig ziglar. 

 

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