Show Up and Own Your Voice

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Ep 22 Show Up and Own Your Voice

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Own your voice - What does that even mean? Can I just be totally honest for a second here - one of my very first acting classes in LA - I was so blah (which how you do one thing is how you do everything so because I was blah and trying to people please in my real life I was also blah in my acting). My acting coach said I needed a stronger point of view. I was 22 or 23 and I literally didn’t know what that meant. It’s so funny looking back now because it’s so simple right but at the time I had no idea. I loved to overcomplicate things and since I hated looking bad or dumb instead of asking for clarity I said that I understood without really having a clue. I went home and immediately googled point of view.

Your point of view is just how you feel about something. In acting it’s so important to have a strong, specific point of view about everything but it’s also important to know how you feel about things in real life too. We suppress our feelings so much. Your body always knows how you feel but we overcomplicate things but trying to figure them out mentally.

When I was in my last relationship I knew that it wasn’t right. The whole time. But he wasn’t a bad guy and treated me pretty well so I tried to mentally convince myself that I could make it work, that I was making this up, that he was a good guy so I should just be happy - for 3 years. And yet, I knew in my heart that it wasn’t right. At that time I couldn’t verbalize why it wasn’t right and even now I can’t fully but the visceral feeling was my intuition, my inner voice. I tried to suppress it because I was a people pleaser and I didn’t want to hurt him but by not trusting that voice I was disempowering myself. I was hurting myself and I was hurting him because I knew in my heart he wasn’t the one for me. I thought I was doing him a favor by staying with him but I wasn’t. I was being selfish by not listening to that voice.

That voice, your intuition, that is God speaking to you. You are a powerful human and you have God within you. You have all the answers you need.  We often look to others for answers to our problems. We read all the books, we ask all our friends but no one knows the answer to your problem better than you. Also, it’s important to note that your mind is completely different than your intuition. Overthinking will only overcomplicate things. You don’t need a pro and con list because you already know the answer. When you visualize about leaving or staying at the job what feels best? Leaving something behind whether it’s a person, a job, or a situation, is always going to be scary because it’s what you know, it’s your comfort zone. But most times we already know in our hearts that what we’re currently doing isn’t right. Don’t be afraid to try something new.

The more you follow your intuition and trust your voice the stronger it will be and the more confidence you will have in it. Your intuition is your power. It is your guiding compass. Your truth will set you free. It will give you peace and it will create space for what you want to fall into place. My intuition has never been wrong. When I’ve listened to my head and made decisions based on people pleasing or based on financial gain I have regretted it but when I’ve listened to my intuition and made decisions based on what feels right I’ve never regretted it.

If you have a lingering feeling of unhappiness that is your intuition telling you something isn’t right. Don’t ignore it. Close your eyes, turn off all the outward noise, and go inward. Go deeper and listen. Connect with who you are. Connect with who God created you to be. Connect with and own your voice that is so powerful. Listen and then take action. Maybe you can’t take action right away but make a plan to change that thing that’s making you unhappy. Don’t be afraid to make a change because I promise you once you hear that voice telling you somethings not right it will only get louder and stronger until you do. Don’t be afraid to step into something new. You were made to thrive and not just survive. Own that voice within you.