Show Up as Your Biggest Cheerleader

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Episode 8: Show Up as Your Biggest Cheerleader

 

In Talia’s interview she spoke on the importance of being your own biggest cheerleader. I want to talk a little bit more about it because I think it’s so important but kind of hard to do. It’s a lot easier to cheer on other people and then feel bad about yourself because you’re not accomplishing the same things as that other person.

 

But change truly starts with yourself and with your mindset. What you tell yourself and how you treat yourself is so important. If you are struggling with negative self talk then understand that you are the only one that can make that shift. 

 

I remember when I was in junior high. I was depressed and one of the things I went through was not liking the way I looked. I would tell myself I’m ugly and then I believed it. My therapist at the time told me everyday or every time I was in front of a mirror to look myself in the face and tell myself I’m beautiful. Because I was young and I wasn’t jaded or overworked I actually did it. And you know what? It worked! 

 

In the beginning I thought it was silly but I kept doing it and at some point I began actually believing I am beautiful. I think about that a lot when I’m trying to change my mindset. I know it works, we just have to submit to the process and be consistent. Which is much harder now as an adult because our negative self talk has grown even more since its been on repeat since we were young. 

 

Being your biggest cheerleader basically means loving yourself. This is kind of a hard pill to swallow but... I believe you get what you allow. If you don’t love yourself then you will allow others to treat you poorly because you treat yourself poorly. And it’s hard to really love others as well. You can’t be your best self to others if you’re not your best self to yourself. It’s not a selfish thing to put yourself first and take care of yourself. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of others. 

 

It’s kind of like when you’re on an airplane when they do the safety instructions. They say if you have children put your oxygen mask on first and THEN help others with theirs. If you don’t put your oxygen mask on first you may run out of oxygen before you help someone else with theirs and then neither of you have oxygen. You have to help yourself first. And that means being loving and kind to yourself. Telling yourself how awesome you are. It may feel silly at first but keep doing it. I challenge you to make an experiment out of it. Can it really work? If you look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are amazing or whatever you need to hear every single day for a year and it doesn’t change your perception of yourself then email me on my website (www.showuptogoup.com) and I will send you $20. Please, prove me wrong. I promise you’ll be changed in the midst of it.

 

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