Show Up to Overcome Comparison

Show Up to Go Up Podcast (SUGU)

Episode 4: Show Up to Overcome Comparison

 

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Comparison is one more thing that I’ve always struggled with. As long as I can remember I have compared myself to others and felt bad about myself as an effect from that comparison. My first memory of this was one of my first memories - in daycare at the tender age of 3ish. My best friend had another friend and I wanted to be the one and only friend (also not good at sharing apparently). I would compare myself to this third girl and try to be cooler to win my friend back. First off, the only way you can be cooler is to be more of yourself. I truly mean that. I know some people that are sooo weird but they are truly themselves and I’m obsessed with them. Own it! Second off, I was developing a super unhealthy relationship with comparison that would continue for years.

 

At the RISE conference I learned that I wasn’t just comparing myself to those ahead of me and feeling bad about it, I was also comparing myself to those behind me on their journey and letting it stroke my ego. Feeling so good about myself because I’m ahead of someone else. But either way it’s a waste of time and a distraction. I’m not where I want to be and I won’t get there by looking at and focusing on those around me. I have to put my head down and run my race. And you have to do the same.

 

5 ways of overcome comparison:

 

1. Love yourself and pour into yourself so much that you understand how amazing you are. Make a list of all the things you’re good at and all the things you’ve accomplished big and small. Read it daily. Be proud of yourself and all that you’ve done thus far.
2. You get what you focus on so focus on gratitude. If you look for things in your life that you’re grateful for, you will find more things to be grateful for. It will change your mind and your heart and you will be overall more happy because you’re not coming from a place of negativity or entitlement. Start a gratitude practice. Write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for everyday. Big or small. Be consistent with this and it’ll change your life.
3. God made you perfect. You are enough and you are amazing! Trust God’s timing for your life. He literally chose you. What you see as flaws are part of the charm and are what make you special and unique. Werk it!
4. Enough is enough! Ever been in a dysfunctional relationship where you kept going back even though you knew it was unhealthy? The only way to end the cycle is to decide enough is enough. You deserve more. Make the decision to let go of comparison and focus on your journey.
5. Quit thinking and take action. Right now! Go for it! Whatever you’ve been thinking about doing, do it! Start. Take steps toward your goals. With steps will come confidence and excitement. Focus on your path and your path only and then get into motion!