Show Up with Confidence (with Tori Kruse)

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Ep 19 Show Up with Confidence (with Tori Kruse)

In this episode we talk about how to find confidence, how to starve your fear by building faith, and how to keep moving forward despite tough times. Below is a breakdown of our conversation...

I hope you enjoy this conversation! For more info you can find me on Instagram at @stephygthatsme/@showuptogoup or www.showuptogoup.com.

 

Contact Tori:

@misstorikruse

info@highlightsnheels.com

 

1:25 - Have you struggled with fears or confidence issues?

Absolutely! She thought she was confident growing up but if she had the confidence back then that she has now (after years of working on herself) then it would have been a totally different story.

 

2:15 Tori’s Story:

She was an athlete growing up and she always had a supportive family that always believed in her. Her faith has led her through every obstacle in her life. One day in college she saw an ad for competing at Miss USA. She signed up for Miss Iowa Teen USA. She didn’t win but she was a semi finalist. She realized she like pageantry so the next year she signed up for Miss USA. After college she moved to Missouri and found a bigger purpose to serve others and 4 years later she won Miss Missouri USA. It took her 8 years to win but her journey was full of discipline and full of lessons and growth. She developed Highlights N Heels based off the knowledge she learned during that time.

 

6:05 - Can you speak on the impact that personal development has made on your life?

It took investing in herself to get to where she is now. She has gained so much knowledge from reading books. The number one book she recommends is The Secret. It helped her realized that her words have power and to pay attention to the things she says. She also recommends Wake Up Happy by Michael Strahan. She used to care so much about what others thought but now she realizes that if people compliment her it’s not about her, it’s about her gifts that she’s been given.

 

8:15 - Can you think of any specific little things that you would say to yourself that were harming you?

She’s very sarcastic but her words were self deprecating. Examples of this are “you’re not smart enough to do this,” or “I’ll never be as good as her.” Even if you’re joking there is a lot of truth that comes with your words so be careful what you say out loud. She also learned to write things into existence. She used to write down that she would be Miss Missouri every day. She was Miss Missouri in her mind for 4 years before it actually happened. Write your dreams down.

 

10:20 - What does it mean to you to show up for yourself?

Taking action. She never loses. She either wins or she learns. Don’t be knocked down by a no because it means you’re closer to a yes. Push through those doubts and get comfortable being uncomfortable.

 

11:25 - Can you talk a little more about loving being uncomfortable and how you can do that?

It’s a process. It’s not an overnight thing. You have to believe in yourself. Words of affirmation have helped her. Writing down encouraging statements and looking at them regularly. “God did not give you this day because you needed it. He gave you this day because someone needed you.” Someone needs you every single day. Removing the pressure off yourself helps. You are here for a reason.

 

13:05 - Has leaning into your purpose been something that’s helped you move forward during the challenges of covid 19?

Her faith has helped her so much. It’s important to focus on faith and starve your fear. She created a product that’s 7 Steps to a Positive Mindset. If anyone is interested you can contact her (see contact info above). It’s in those times of uncertainty that our personalities are able to shine most. Take the focus off yourself and think about the people who need you most and be of service to them.

 

14:35 - How did you get into coaching and speaking after Miss Missouri USA?

Part of her role as Miss Missouri was to speak to audiences. The year before she won, in 2017, she was runner up for Miss Missouri and she moved to LA to pursue her dream of becoming a sports broadcaster. She networked and learned to ask people for help. There are so many people who are willing to help if you are willing to ask. Sometimes you have to do the scariest thing to know that you’re going to make it through. You have to visualize past the hard times and visualize who you want to be as a person and take steps toward that. We are building habits right now during covid19. What habits do you want to take forward after this time? Sticking to her morning routine has helped her keep moving forward. Know where you want to go but pivot if you need to. 

 

20:14 - Can you explain what 10x is and how it has changed your life? 

10x is with Grant and Elena Cardone. Their movement is about 10xing your life by thinking bigger than yourself. She loves surrounding herself with people who think big and inspire her. Being a part of the community has helped her catapult her business and career. The coolest thing about personal development is we can take a little bit from everyone and tweak them and use what works for you and your business or life. You don’t need to reinvent the wheel but how can you incorporate your uniqueness.

 

23:25 - Where did your passion for helping women come from?

When she was Miss Missouri she traveled around the state and spoke to young men about sexual assault and respecting women. She would educate them from a girl’s perspective. After Miss USA she had to decide if she wanted to focus on serving women with her skills and lessons she’d learned or continue to serve and educate men She realized she could help and relate to women more easily because she’s been there. 

 

26:43 - What is your favorite quote that you love to live by?

"God didn’t give you this day because you needed it. It’s because someone needed you.” AND “Every single no is one step closer to your yes.”

 

27:40 - What advice or words of encouragement would you give to someone who doesn’t have any confidence?

You are enough. You were created for a reason. Make yourself do something to take a little action because there is at least one person that needs you and your smile.

 

 28:50 - Where can people find you and is there anything else you’re excited about?

She is hosting a weekly networking zoom call at 4pm PT/7pm ET. You can also text unstoppable to 66866 for a Winning Mindset Starter Guide. You can also reach out to her on social media at @misstorikruse or info@highlightsnheels.com