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#1 Regret of the Dying

The #1 regret of people who are dying is "I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself and not the life others expected of me."

Turn your Pain into Strength and Resiliency

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There has been so much pain in 2020 but on the other side of pain is healing and on the other side of healing is strength and resiliency. 

Perfectionism vs Risk

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Perfectionism is your ego and pride not wanting to look bad. Taking risks is a necessary step toward growth and success.

Pain of Regret vs Pain of Discipline

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What's more important to you? The pain of regret or the pain of discipline? Either one will cost you. You must decide if you goals are more important than your fears.

Overcome Perfectionism

Ep 54 Overcome Perfectionism

Do you struggle from perfectionism? Do you avoid doing things that you're not good of because you feel that if you can't do it perfect then what's the point? You will never get where you want to be if you try to be perfect. Growth comes from fails and from messy action forward. 

Here are 5 steps to overcome perfectionism...

1.) Self love/celebrate your small wins

2.) Read the book Mindset by Carol Dweck - she talks about a fixed mindset vs a growth mindset

3.) focus on one small step at a time so you don't get overwhelmed by the big picture

4.) Have more fun! Embrace your inner child and play/explore more!

5.) Embrace failure. Change how you think about failure. Failure leads to progress. Perfectionism leads to feeling stuck.

6.) Let go of control! Stop worrying so much and just go for what you want! You can do it!

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Find Joy Through Tension

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Ep 53 Find Joy Through Tension

So much of life is about the journey rather than the destination. In the journey there is likely to be obstacles, challenges, and pain. How can you lean into those times to learn and find happiness?

How to Get Unstuck

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Ep 52 How to Get Unstuck

I have spent the majority of my life being “stuck.” For me, years 20-30 were filled with multiple google searches of “how to find my purpose” and “how to find motivation.” I always knew that I was capable of more but I didn’t have the tools to take actions to move forward. Like anything else, there are strategies you can use to free yourself of your personal stranglehold or as I like to say, go unst*ck yourself! Get it?! Okay first things first, taking yourself too seriously can lead to feeling stuck. Life is meant to be fun. Yes, we all have goals and ambitions but if you solely focus on goals without having fun you will find yourself unfulfilled and it is my belief that unfulfillment and feeling stuck go hand in hand. Through my 10 years of hands on research, I have come to realize that feeling stuck often comes from one of four things: limiting beliefs, lack of clarity, overwhelm, and not being in alignment. 

LIMITING BELIEFS:
The first key toward moving forward in life all starts with believing in yourself. A limiting belief is any story that you tell yourself to hold yourself back in life. They include any form of insecurities, fear,  or self doubt. We all have them and as we grow our businesses and grow as people they will continue to be there because growing takes stepping out of your comfort zone. Every belief, both good and bad, comes from our thoughts on repeat. The more we think a thought the more power we give it until it eventually turns into a belief. Common self beliefs include, “I’m not good enough,” or “I don’t know what I’m doing.” These beliefs are not the truth, they are just the stories that you have told yourself over and over again. The good news is, you can change your beliefs by changing your thoughts. For more information on how to change your thoughts, download this free PDF guide.

LACK OF CLARITY:
What do you want? Do you clearly and specifically know what you want for yourself and your business? Do you have a vision of what the next month and year look like? If you can’t answer those questions without much thought then you probably don’t know - which could be leading you to feel stuck. If you aren’t aiming toward anything then you aren’t growing and like I said before, if you aren’t growing you aren’t fulfilled and unfulfillment means stuck. Start simple. What do you want? Is it more free time? Is it more sales? Say to yourself “I want more ___________.” That’s it. That’s the thing.

OVERWHELM:
So now you know what you want but how exactly do you achieve it? Sometimes our goals are so big that the idea of achieving them is too overwhelming and overwhelm can easily lead to inaction. It’s time to slow down to speed up. Instead of focusing on how you’re going to get from A to Z, pull back and focus on how you will get from A to B. Start by making a list of all the things you could do to achieve your goal and then focus on 1 item you can do today. If you finish that 1 item you can move on to the next step, or if you find that 1 item to be ineffective then you now have an entire list of actions you can take, so pivot and try something else. 

Let’s say for instance you want to start a podcast. There are several steps that you need to take from having the idea to launching your podcast. Make a list of all the things you need to do to launch. Some ideas may be “buy a microphone,” “record an episode,” “think of a name,” “research how to make a podcast.” Notice how these aren’t in any particular order. When you make your list, just write! Write down every single thing you think of without filter or judgement. Ideally you’ll have 20+ things on your list. Let’s look at the 4 things I just listed. Which one comes first? Well, if you don’t know anything about making a podcast, which you probably don’t if you have never made one, the obvious first step is to research how to make a podcast followed by buy a microphone. Start small and overtime you will build clarity, confidence, and momentum.

When I first started my podcast, Show Up to Go Up, I had no idea what exactly I wanted to talk about. All I knew was that I always wanted to create a podcast. I didn’t let my lack of clarity be an excuse. I started with the basics, kept moving forward, and I eventually turned it into what it is today - a podcast full of inspiration, tools, and tips for those who feel stuck in life.

NOT IN ALIGNMENT:
Hopefully I don’t lose you with the word alignment. That used to be a trigger word for me to stop paying attention. Fight that temptation! What I mean by alignment is - do your actions match what you say you want? Sometimes we say that we want something and yet we are pushing that very thing away OR you don’t actually want the thing you say you want. Let’s explore both.

Are you pushing away the thing you say you want? Let’s say you want more free time. Do your actions match that? We all know that actions speak louder than words. Are you allowing yourself to have more time? I used to say that I wanted more free time but I would say yes to everyone and everything and give away any free time I had. My actions of saying yes to everyone were not in alignment with what I said I wanted. Take some inventory here. Maybe there is a subtle change you have to make before you can achieve the thing you want. For me, it was saying no to others.

Do you actually want the thing you say you want? Maybe you say you want to open multiple locations of your store front business. And maybe at one point you really did want that. But in the past couple years you have shifted a bit and now spending more quality time with your family is important. The thing you say you want, more business locations, is no longer what you actually want and therefore you aren’t in alignment. You’re not fully focused on either thing because the two are conflicting and therefore you are stuck. You may have to do some self reflection to make sure the things you say you want are still the things you actually want. Goals change and that’s okay. Self reflection will lead to insight which will also lead to your actions supporting your desires.

Being stuck is one of the worst feelings in the world. It can feel like you are helpless. But remember, you are the driver of your life. The first step to get unstuck is to pay attention. If you don’t realize you’re stuck then how can you change? With these 4 tools you will be on your way to unst*cking yourself and living a life of fulfillment.

Everything is Neutral

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Ep 51 Everything is Neutral

Everything in life is neutral. It is not good nor bad. We are the ones who decide. Shakespeare said "there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."

I first heard this concept when it came to money. Why is it that some people view money as a good thing and others view it as a bad thing? Money is neither good nor bad. It is whatever you decide it to be.

The same is true with fear. Both fear and excitement manifest in the body as the same symptoms - rapid heartbeat, dry throat, butterflies in stomach. Change your perception on fear and think of it as an opportunity to find joy and excitement.

 

The Power of Gratitude

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Ep 50 The Power of Gratitude

How ironic that my 50th episode is on gratitude! That being said, I am so grateful to have this opportunity, to grow and share this information, and most importantly for YOU! Thank you so much for listening and supporting me!

Practicing gratitude is one of those magical things that automatically makes your life better. In this episode I talk about 3 ways to practice gratitude.

1.) Developing a daily habit of writing 3-5 things you're grateful for each day. You can do this anytime during the day but I suggest doing it first thing in the morning to start your day off on the right tone. The things you write down can be big or small. You will see a huge change if you do this regularly. The more you focus on things you're grateful for, the more things you will find to be grateful for!

2.) Doing a gratitude meditation. You can youtube a guided meditation or you can just put a timer on for 5-10 minutes and think about 2-3 times in your life that you were sooo happy. Maybe your were in nature or at a birthday party or just spending time with a loved one. Go back to that day and feel those feelings you felt. Connect your body with your feelings for a deeper dive into gratitude. You will feel sooo good after this!

3.) Send thank you cards to those you love and appreciation. It will feel good to you to think about why you're grateful for a certain person and it will also feel good to them to receive such a lovely letter.

Gratitude and appreciation are powerful things. The world would be a happier, better place if we could all focus on gratitude. Click here more free resources.

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

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Ep 49 Change Your Thoughts, Change your Life

All your beliefs start with your thoughts. The thoughts that you think about over and over again ultimately become your beliefs. If you struggle with limiting beliefs the good news is you can change those beliefs by changing your thoughts. Here's how...

1.) Pay attention to the thought you have and the stories you tell yourself over and over again. Awareness is ALWAYS the first step.

2.) Write down 5-10 limiting beliefs/doubts/negative things you tell yourself. Here are some examples...

• I'm not good enough
• I'm too weird to fit in
• I'm not skinny enough

3.) Recognize those things for what they are...LIES! You don't have to believe those things about yourself. They are just the stories you've been telling yourself but they don't have to be your truth! Cross out everything you wrote on your list!

4.) Write an affirming statement that counters the limiting belief you wrote. Here are examples from the limiting belief examples...

• God created me for a reason. He made me perfect in his eyes
• My weirdness is a gift because it makes me unique
• My body is beautiful/strong

5.) Look at your affirmation list daily and anytime you have a negative thought stop yourself and replace it with the matching affirmation.

Remember - you have formed the habit of repeating your negative thoughts. You can for a different habit but it WILL take time. Give yourself grace but stay consistent. Keep showing up for yourself because if you do there is nowhere you can go but up!

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